A date where you don't really like the person who you're with, but you didn't want to turn them down. You said yes out of pity. Here's the thing, someone might agree to go on a date out of pity or charity but have such a good time that it becomes a wonderful date. This happens all the. Friend called me this morning, said that she went on a "pity date" with some guy last night. Basically she said she met him online and for one reason or another. Pity dates are just that, a pitiful last attempt to extract physical emotion from women who do not sexually desire you. If by some chance you do get a “pity date” out of a woman then it's Change How Define Being Nice.